No more pleasing everyone?
Have more courage to speak up and say the no you’ve been wanting to say for a long time.
Hi, I’m Melanie, Empowerment Coach and your personal cheerleader 🤟🏼
Find out more about me on LinkedIn – and in compact form in this article:
Do you know that pleasing everyone is a motto? Then you’re not alone – I felt the same way.
For a long time, I was an expert on what other people want. If there had been a title for it, I would have successfully completed the “Master of being Everybody’s Darling” back then. The main module: constantly paying attention to the opinions and needs of everyone and everything – except me. And the result? I led a life that was more suited to Grandma Hildegard next door than to me ❌
Then came yoga, meditation, my yoga teacher training and a degree in psychology. And finally the courage and inner strength to do MY thing, to stand up for myself and to say “no” sometimes. And I would now like to pass this superpower on to you 🤟🏼
As a psychologist by training, I will accompany you on your path to your authentic self. My approach integrates psychological methods with yoga philosophy to facilitate holistic change – away from self-doubt and self-determination towards self-confidence and your courageous, authentic life.
We work intensively on 4 core areas that form the foundation for your courageous self. Using a combination of psychological techniques and yoga philosophy, we work on teasing out your inner rebel, strengthening you and boosting your self-confidence – so that you can boldly go out with what YOU feel from your heart 💛
1:1 coaching programme
As empoerment coach, M.Sc. Psychology and trained yoga teacher, I will accompany you in 1:1 coaching on your path to your authentic self – so that you can finally do your thing again. Stop all pleasing: Be courageously yourself 😎
It’s all there for you:
Up to 6 months 1:1 support
8 personal 1:1 sessions of 60 minutes each included. This gives us the opportunity to cater to your individual needs and goals.
Practical exercises from psychology
With meditation sessions, visualisations and impulses from yoga philosophy that are individually tailored to the topics in the programme, as well as everyday impulses that help you to courageously walk your path every day.
Permanent access to your individually developed results
Your individual topics, quiz results and your self-care plan at the end of the programme.
Support during the 6 months
You are not alone! I’m there for you and your questions from Monday to Friday from 9am to 4pm. You will also receive regular feedback from me.
Your personalised path to your true self
It can look like this:
Session 1: Your personalised introduction
Get to know your inner superhero for the first time. What awaits us on our journey together?
Session 2-3: You are worth it
Develop self-compassion: You learn to take yourself more seriously.
Foundation for change: You realise that self-care is not selfishness.
Stability: You feel more confident to take the first steps towards change.
Session 4: Get to know yourself (new)
Clarity gained: You can see which old patterns keep holding you back.
Insight: You understand how your beliefs influence your behaviour.
Awareness: You know where you need to start in order to really change something.
Session 5-6: Letting go of old patterns and standing by yourself
Relief: You recognise connections
Inner peace: You feel less pressure to always please everyone.
Growth: You develop new, positive ways of thinking that strengthen you.
Act more consciously: You step out of old patterns and look at reactions from a new perspective.
Sessions 7 and 8: Saying no and setting boundaries
Self-confidence: You can set authentic boundaries and communicate your needs clearly and are given a plan on how to implement your newly acquired skills in everyday life
Session 9: Do your thing
You are prepared to continue on your path without fear of conflict and remain true to yourself.
Your personalised path to your true self
It can look like this:
Session 1: Your personalised introduction
Session 2-3: You are worth it
Foundation for change: You realise that self-care is not selfishness.
Stability: You feel more confident to take the first steps towards change.
Session 4: Get to know yourself (new)
Insight: You understand how your beliefs influence your behaviour.
Awareness: You know where you need to start in order to really change something.
Session 5-6: Letting go of old patterns and standing by yourself
Inner peace: You feel less pressure to always please everyone.
Growth: You develop new, positive ways of thinking that strengthen you.
Act more consciously: You step out of old patterns and look at reactions from a new perspective.
Sessions 7 and 8: Saying no and setting boundaries
Session 9: Go your own way
What people say about working with me…
Before we started working together, I kept having thoughts and feelings that conflicted with each other. My mind said one thing, my intuition another. Now both are sitting at the same table.
Wishes and goals that had been hidden for a long time also came up and I realised one of them straight away. I’m already looking forward to the month of sun, wind and sea!
What helped me in particular? Your way of asking questions, your instinct for what to ask and how to ask it, really hit the spot for me.
As a perfectionist, it was liberating to talk to Melanie about the constant pressure to judge myself. Now I say more often: I am proud of what I am and what I have achieved. Melanie has shown me that the answers are already within me and that I can trust my inner voice more.
Her inspiration has also made me really want to do my morning journaling again. It helps me to organise my thoughts. I now also have little notes on my computer that remind me how valuable I am – as a mum, a person and a writer. Thank you, Melanie, for encouraging me to go my own way with confidence! 🙂
What people say about working with me…
Before we started working together, I kept having thoughts and feelings that conflicted with each other. My mind said one thing, my intuition another. Now both are sitting at the same table.
Wishes and goals that had been hidden for a long time also came up and I realised one of them straight away. I’m already looking forward to the month of sun, wind and sea!
What helped me in particular? Your way of asking questions, your instinct for what to ask and how to ask it, really hit the spot for me.
[…] Thank you, Melanie, for encouraging me to walk my path with self-confidence! 🙂
Our common path
Do you finally want to please yourself again? Boldly do your thing and have professional support at your side? That’s a great decision! You are investing in yourself – and in a life that is finally yours again.
Here are my current offers and prices:
1 month: take the first steps towards the real you
3 x 1:1 Coachingsession
2 suitable meditations or visualisations
for more clarity and the courage to be yourself.
Support via WhatsApp
Price includes VAT.
Set specific goals and take the first concrete steps towards increased self-confidence and feel self-love.
3 months: first milestones for your no – say yes to yourself!
6 x 1:1 Coachingsession
Supplementary documents
Inner motivators test from psychology: unmask your beliefs
In addition:
• Suitable meditations and visualisations
• Yoga impulses, mindfulness techniques and journaling impulses
Support via WhatsApp with supportive impulses
Price includes VAT.
Get to know yourself again and find out what holds you back, what moves you and find the first ways to face difficult thoughts.
6 months: Be authentic and courageous YOU – Live your life!
9 x 1:1 Coachingsession
Supplementary documents
Inner motivators test from psychology: unmask your beliefs
In addition:
• Suitable meditations and visualisations
• Yoga impulses, mindfulness techniques and journaling impulses
• Individual self-care plan at the end of the programme
• The advantage of the whole programme and the underlying mindset
Support via WhatsApp with supportive impulses
Welcome gift: Your workbook for ‘clear and authentic boundaries in 6 steps’
Price includes VAT.
Become aware of inner blockages and learn methods to act authentically and with courage – so that your life is finally yours again.
Frequently asked questions
Private Coaching Sessions
Want my support to grow individually? Then let’s talk in a private coaching session!
“The key to growth is acknowledging your fear of the unknown and jumping in anyway.”
Jen Sincero
Let’s jump in together! Having a partner along the way makes most things way less frightening.
Believe me, I can relate to your pain… I lived through that transformation of feeling more okay with not constantly delivering perfectly, too, but mostly all by myself. That just made it harder than was needed.
Besides my personal experience – I’m also academically educated in supporting you along the way as you can see in the pictures below. I am also continously working on acquiring more theoretical and practical knowledge to be able to provide you the best possible guidance you deserve.
You want more? There is! Just go and checkout my LinkedIn Profile or read about it on the ‘About Me’ Page, because for now we are done here with showing off certificates. We want to get to work! Or at least I want to talk more about all the great things we can do together – Because I am really looking forward to support you along your way. I LOVE helping people grow.
Question is: In which areas can I support YOU?
Personal Development
You want to reach a certain goal? You can feel there is a point in your life which requires change, but you just don’t know where to begin? Overwhelming you? Or you finally want to work with some struggles and anxieties of yours? I’m here to help. I got you. Let’s work it out together, you don’t have to go through this alone.
Communication
Communication is so valuable and important – yet it can be so hard. Expressing ourselves and mastering conflicts with others… most of the time it is about communication! And throughout my own personal and educational journey I developed a lot of communication tools I can share with you in 1:1 sessions.
Play & Organise
As you might have figured given the nature of the course I am offering Playfulness and Organisation are a great part of my life. Not only did I personally experience their benefits, but also deepyl belief in their value for a happy life! If you want a more private learning approach than my online course feel free to reach out to me – about either one or both of them.
“If you don’t take the time to work on creating the life you want, you’re eventually going to be forced to spend a lot of time dealing with a life you don’t want.”
Kevin Ngo